February 05, 2024

Studies Uncover the Reality that Gay and Lesbian Couples are Happier than Straight Couples

Gays and lesbians are generally perceived socially to be troubled by some factions of the general population. These people more than hate, feel pity for the homosexuals. Concerns about how they are going to have kids without the standard dad or a mom are part of the things that contribute to this feeling of pity.

They further make the mistake of thinking that the homosexuals themselves worry about these things and as a result lead an unhappy married life due to these worries even though they manage to adopt kids.

  • A revolutionary study set the facts right

New studies, however, have shown that these general conceptions are indeed misconceptions and in fact, the homosexual couples are happier than straight couples and more interestingly bi-sexual have been categorized in their own group with results showing something different for them.

Some members of the general population have stated in the past that they see a joyous spark in the eyes of gay and lesbian couples that they do not see in the eyes of straight couples. Such observation has led them to suspect the general perception that gay couples could be enjoying more conjugal bliss.

Now, there is no need to suspect anymore, an extensive study has been carried out by Janeen Baxter and Francisco Parales from Queensland University had brought a scientific backing to the purported observation that gay couples are happier.

What may more evidence be asked after questioning over 25,000 people domiciled in the UK as well more than a count of 9,000 people in Australia? They stated in their results that “Relationship quality in same-sex couples was as high as in heterosexual couples in the United Kingdom and higher in Australia. The lowest relationship quality in both countries was reported by bisexual individuals.”

What they suggested is responsible for the happiness in their marriages is the non-existence of gender role dogma. The absence of these stereotypical definitions of roles makes it easier for voluntary involvement in roles such as domestic and parenting roles. Each partner is much less concerned about what the other should be doing or is yet to do. Heterosexual couples, on the other hand, expect one member to do or play some parts while the other does the rest as defined by dogma and tradition.

  • Such gay or lesbian home have more balance

 This ideology makes one person feel like he is doing more than the other while the other senses laziness or lack of responsibility from the one. These perceived conflicts in the mind of each member bring an imbalance to the marriage and ultimately results in happiness.

The husband in most heterosexual marriages expects the domestic chores to be carried out by the wife. But it is usually impossible for her to do all especially when she has a job and the woman expects the man to take care of the bills and it is usually hard for him to do it alone if his job is not so high-paying. The ultimate result of these expectations and consequent disappointments is an unhappy marriage.  Baxter and Parales wrote that “individuals in same-sex couples (particularly lesbian women) generally are more equitable in the ways in which they allocate domestic work, including childcare”.

“Unequal household burdens are associated with poor relationship outcomes, including marital conflict and divorce,” they further explained.

They also added that “If gender display is not as salient in same-sex couples and these relationships are more egalitarian than heterosexual couples, higher levels of relationship quality might be expected.”

Part of their findings shows that gay and lesbian couples tend to feel more connected when around couples like them as compared to heterosexual couples when around their kind hence contributing to the happiness of homosexual couples.

These two researchers say that their findings fully support granting more rights to same-sex marriage and further argued against the belief that children whose parents are of same sex tend to suffer.

They wrote in their report that “Our results provide robust evidence to combat deep-rooted and erroneous social perceptions of same-sex relationships being conflictual, unhappy, and dysfunctional,” they said.

“Our findings support policies that seek to legalize same-sex marriage and parenting rights.”

Emphasis was further placed on what was said earlier here about bisexual individuals that their findings “highlight the need to give further attention to bisexual individuals as a distinct group because their outcomes are comparatively poor.”

Reports have also shown bisexuals especially the women tend to have less sleep than other people and they generally are more anxious, leaving a less happy life than other people.

Baxter and Parales have done it albeit unceremoniously, they have uncovered the truth to a long-standing social error and hopefully more studies will be carried out by others to prove them right and further concretize their recommendations leading to government policies that would make the world a better place, with more legislation freeing up for same-sex couples.